We had our second grief meeting yesterday. They had changed the meeting after getting alot of feedback. There was no prayer at the beginning and there was alot more diversity in cultures and ages. We all sat in a circle this time and told our stories. For the first time I told our story out loud instead of handing everyone a sheet of paper with it all written down.
We talked about family and how alot of people didn't understand. I told them about my family and that I had also spoken to my Mother on the eve of Jack's birthday, that she said we had been grieving for to long, we needed to get over it and that we needed a reality check. When I gave her a piece of my mind my Aunt jumped in and once again it was all about how poorly my Mom was being treated. She always demands a pity party for herself , my family may still partake in it but I am out. You should love your children unconditionally and sadly she doesn't. She only loves you if go along with her way of thinking and that everything should be all about her. All my life I have been catering to my moms poor me attitude and I just cant do it anymore. That was the last straw for me and my Mother is no more to me. I told them how she regarded Jack as a thing and not as a human being who had a life. I was surprised to find out that many of them had and are dealing with the same thing. They as well had cut the people once closest to them out of their lives.
We shared, we cried, we vented and listened. A circle of death was formed that night from Cancer to accidental overdose to heart defects to syndromes to SIDS but as well a circle of life was formed. Our lives.
Thanks to everyone who had wished Jack a Happy Birthday and who were thinking of him.
I love you my piglet, Jack and Mummy forever
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